#Love, according to “Her”

Theodore: I’ve never loved anyone the way I loved you.
Samantha: Me too. Now we know how.

So what’s Love?
The basic illustration is you see a guy, your eyes meet, your heart melts, you’re struck with a big Light. Miracle: you’re in Love. A year later or so, you marry; 9 months later, you give birth, 3 years after – or nowadays less – Love fades down and here comes routine, compromise, patience, extra marital affairs. If you’re Lucky, it will settle into becoming a “complicite”.

Today, the Oscar-winning Her movie by Spike Jonze , which I will watch again for the screenplay and cast are amazing, has shaken one of my strongest beliefs: Love!

So what’s Love? Is it an exchange of eyes, lips and bodies? And when it happens and is consumed, does it have to turn into something ugly, sad and mad! Is Love today nothing but a physical relationship ruled by some seduction games?
In the movie Her, Love was imagined virtual. Not the long distance Skype bound exchange, nor the hush hush sexting affair. Rather in Love with a voice, an idea of a woman, a spirit, an illusion. The movie shows you how much you can become hooked to a persona, to which level you can get attached to an idea, how fulfilled you can be with a person living next to you, living with you all day, all night, sharing your emotions, giving you advice, comforting you, going the extra mile, motivating you, sharing deep insights…..all this through a virtual presence!
Of course, it can be very frustrating at moments and on the long run, but how sweet and tempting is the fact of just being you, living your life, dreams, aspirations, sharing your fears without apprehending to be judged, not to feel embarrassment or suffocation through a camera? “I feel like I can be anything with you”.

Of course, physical needs will always prevail but when the mind and heart are hooked to a one single idea, that is Love, all other feelings become secondary.

According to “Her“, is this what’s Love going to end up being? An isolation from society and others to be confined with your deepest feelings and an illusion? Is it being selfishly hiding with One feeling and exploring it until the next level? Is it the total overwhelming Happiness to bond with one person to the extent of feeling jealous from the world?

How many of us around here live carrying a Love for another person so tight, so deep and so overwhelming, we cannot focus on any other one or give the impression of being in Love. How many of you agree to the fact that Love grows so close to your skin and heart that you feel secure letting yourself go to this warm interior feeling of serenity and peace?

“Sometimes I think I have felt everything I’m ever gonna feel. And from here on out, I’m not gonna feel anything new. Just lesser versions of what I’ve already felt”.

Award winning "Her" poster

Award winning “Her” poster


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